Therapy - Debunking myths!

Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog! I'm so sorry that it's been so long since the last post but I'm back!

Today we are talking about therapy! I love therapy! But there are a lot of myths about therapy that I'd love to debunk today.

Therapy is often a topic that is shrouded in mystery for a lot of people, especially when they've had no experience with it. I find this terrible because it prevents people from seeking help because they have pre-conceived ideas about it. Here are some judgments that people can make about therapy, and why they're SO not true:

-You can only be in therapy if you suffer from a mental illness. /You can't be in therapy if you have a 'good' life, or don't have any 'serious' problems.
NOT TRUE! Therapy can help you to discover yourself and learn to see the world in a whole new light. Often in therapy, issues come up that you've never even thought to think about before and it can really deepen your understanding of the people and the world around you. Yes, people do go to therapy to learn to cope with disorders, but ANYONE can go to therapy.

-Therapists are all warm, fuzzy and kind to the point of being vomit-inducing.
Unfortunately, the media has portrayed therapists to be very kind and gentle and almost weak. This can make therapy seem like it's pointless if you're just going to have a cheerleader tell you that 'everything's going to be fine'. This is so NOT true. While good therapists are obviously kind and wonderful people, they often ask very difficult questions, and I often find myself coming out of sessions feeling frustrated. A good therapist will know exactly how much to push you to further self-discovery and understanding the world around you.

-Therapy is an easy, quick-fix solution and therapists have all the answers.
On the other end of the spectrum, there is the belief that therapy is this holy grail that can magically fix your life. You go in there and they tell you exactly what you need to do to get better and fix all your problems. Easy. NO. Therapy is NOT easy! It's very difficult, especially if you're working through a lot of built up, hidden emotions.  Like I said, therapists ask very difficult questions, and get you to challenge the way you think about a lot of things. It's hard work.

-You don't need therapy when you can just talk to your best friend
WOW, I can't even believe that people think this! This is a very unhealthy way to think people. You can NOT be putting all your emotional weight on your friends. It's not healthy for you or them! Of course, it's wonderful to have friends who are there to support you and be there for you. But friendship and therapy are different in a lot of ways. Firstly, friendships are reciprocal relationships. You tell each other your problems. Therapy is all about and devoted to YOU. Secondly, therapists are highly trained individuals who’ve spent years learning and practicing how to diagnose and treat cognitive, emotional, behavioral and relational issues. Lastly, therapy is strictly confidential! Therapists are the best secret keepers ever! (With a few exceptions, like if you're seriously at risk of suicide) But this last fact alone should make the difference clear. Also, your relationship with your therapist is a professional one, not a friendship. They can tell you things you don't want to hear and you can't 'stop being friends with them' because that's literally their job. I hope there's a clear difference between therapy and friendships here!

I hope this post cleared up some grey areas about therapy for you! If you have any questions about therapy, feel free to comment below, or message me on twitter or instagram (@plastersforhearts) and I'll do my best to answer them!

Till next time, have a wonderful day you precious creation!

Lots of love, Ameryn.


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